Who Am I and What I think…
A 20 something girl, just starting her new job in an unknown city, native of south India.. but a enthusiast of western music , loves cooking and food, old English movies…gosh doesn’t that sound like something out of the classified matrimonial section of a daily..
Well the basic reason I am writing this blog, other than to cribJ is to maybe post my views on what I see happening around me. I sometimes wonder why people act the way they do.. and just maybe put down my thoughts on why they do.
Sitting in a cubicle in office writing this , I feel that we are all confused individuals, routinely following a way decided by some guy sitting in a far off land (invariably US) , who is intent on making his millions by making us work on super sizzling excel sheets and presentations which in any case are forgotten in the junk pile he calls his mail box.
I have left home and my loved ones to be an “ Independent Women”.. but I am seriously wondering if I am happier than my grandma was when she left school at 13 to get married and have a kid by 15. For all the feminists out there , believe me I am a ardent supporter.. but aren’t we still bowing to the whims of society, we are expected to be super women , do it all.. We are capable , no doubt of that but do we really want to? All the guys I know now prefer someone, who works and also manages the kids. They are quick to assure me that they will appoint someone to do the cooking to help their better halves, its not their fault I think , we are doing that to ourselves. Looking around me I see overworked women who are rushing home at 8pm, just in time to see her kids dozing off. We are still under pressure. I am just asking is it all worth it?
Well the basic reason I am writing this blog, other than to cribJ is to maybe post my views on what I see happening around me. I sometimes wonder why people act the way they do.. and just maybe put down my thoughts on why they do.
Sitting in a cubicle in office writing this , I feel that we are all confused individuals, routinely following a way decided by some guy sitting in a far off land (invariably US) , who is intent on making his millions by making us work on super sizzling excel sheets and presentations which in any case are forgotten in the junk pile he calls his mail box.
I have left home and my loved ones to be an “ Independent Women”.. but I am seriously wondering if I am happier than my grandma was when she left school at 13 to get married and have a kid by 15. For all the feminists out there , believe me I am a ardent supporter.. but aren’t we still bowing to the whims of society, we are expected to be super women , do it all.. We are capable , no doubt of that but do we really want to? All the guys I know now prefer someone, who works and also manages the kids. They are quick to assure me that they will appoint someone to do the cooking to help their better halves, its not their fault I think , we are doing that to ourselves. Looking around me I see overworked women who are rushing home at 8pm, just in time to see her kids dozing off. We are still under pressure. I am just asking is it all worth it?
posted by Anu at 5:56 AM
5 Comments:
Well....Appreciate ur thoughts!!!
I think ur grandma was happier because
- she never thought being a housewife is utter humiliation to woomanhood
- she valued her contributions she could make to her family being a housewife more than the money she could earn by being a working mother
- she never thought pubhoping and disco going is fun...it was a taboo for her....may be she doesnt even know such things exist...
i can go on like this....
ultimately, times have changed and its something we gotta live with...so dont lose happiness worrying about these things and just enjoy the life as it is!!!
ne ways, thnx for keeping me up through this sleepy conference call.... :)
thanks sriram....what your saying is my precise question.. are todays women given freedom of choice to fufill their true potential but only getting torn into two by still the traditional home/hearth concept
I think women today are in a much better position when compared to their grandmas...they never had a choice. half the life they were pregnant!!! and rest of the time busy bringing up those kids...
today's women have many opportunities and much more options. you can absolutely control ur destiny. it all depends on how well u can use this power available to u.....
itz not abt whether the woman r confused. it is abt having priorities in life...
your grandmothers order was
1. her kids
2. her hubby
3. her home...
where as today u have many things which have wqual importance...u and only u shd decide what u want in life...
again diff ppl have diff priorities...
juss knowing what u want in life is enough to place thse things in order..
rather than thinking that ur working at the whims of some other guy ( sitting in US)
why dont u juss follow ur dreams...it is tough..but it gives real joy...
cheers...
surya
@ theunreasonable.blogspot.com
I thought the same that you thot when i was 23 and naive out of college..Now when i am mature and have seen a bit out the world i realize that women have to be financially independent as well so that they can face the big bad world..With rape, domestic violence and a lot more heinous crimes being comfortably pushed under the carpet even with the so called educated women..Jobs are necessary!
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