Monday, August 14, 2006

When Real and Reel collide

I had taken a break from blogging, but I have been quite a constant visitor to my blogger pals ….. hopefully this time I wont stop

During the weekend I went to see Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna,(spoilers ahead) though the movie will never be one of my favorite, it brought out a lot of conversation topics. A couple of my friends were uneasy with it and the reason being a part of it resonated with their life. Being new to the whole relationship thing, I don’t say that I am an expert of human interactions, but in every relationship I do believe there is a point where the people just want to jump out of the boat and here lies the true test of commitment. I am sure if Juliet lived she would have driven the dagger through Romeo’s heart herself, when he had left the wet towel on their bed for the 100th time or Romeo would have gladly fed her cyanide , for her numerous shopping trips. But does that mean that she would have left Romeo for Paris, just because they had the same background and tastes, and suddenly the adolescent love was left behind for the more practical kind.

Also the movie triggered the feminist in me. A person actually remarked that she felt badly for Shah Rukh’s character in the movie, because his wife played by Preethi was career oriented. This from a person, who has been a career woman in her life. Well God help all those girls in India, supporting their families by working 12 hr days, they are definitely deserving of a jerk who yells at them and leaves them for a nursery school teacher (as in the movie). A relationship is tough to say the least; it’s about two people who different individuals are making an interaction in to a bond that last a lifetime. What I didn’t like about the movie was the sanction to leave that bond behind, because you suddenly happen to grasp the fact that you are still attracted to other people .Considering the billion of people in the world, I am sure a person will come in contact with another who is their soulmate, but having that person as your better half is always not possible. Some are lucky they marry their soulmates, but the others enter an “institution” which ensures that through the years the other person grows into your soulmate.

Most girls and some guys grow up on the concept of an explosive love everlasting .The significant other is all things they want to be themselves in a way .But if you live in a dream world, and reality bites, 48 tetanus shots are not going to help u out of that!!!. I don’t want to say that the true love (which is portrayed in nearly every movie) doesn’t last in real life. Some people get it immediately and many have to work on it.The movie asks the question “What if u meet your soulmate after marriage?”… a philosophical question but to me an oxymoron. If your married, that person is your soulmate and if you cannot live with that person you say good bye first before you jump into another person’s arms . A famous saying goes ‘ the guys are like grapes – u have to stomp on them till u get the best wine’ , n I am sure there is an equally insane saying from the guys side. But the truth is ,it’s a lot of hard work that goes into the stomping :)) .I know atleast one woman in the theatre would have watched the movie and then looked at her husband and sighed , sure that her true love was waiting outside on his silver merc!!!,But the truth was 95% of the time , that true love would leave her for a better and younger model:)

Instant gratification with love has now extended to the marriage front. It’s just easier for people to say goodbye than to fight for something, whose end may not be a happier ever after. Where does the love stop and the commitment begin or are they interrelated that one without the other doesn’t make sense?

Of course I am speaking on a generalized front, and every relationship has its own dynamics. The sad part is Indian movies are now giving the sanction for a marriage to fall apart due to stress and lack of communication. With even less supporters of this institution I wonder how long it will last?

And for the joke….

Husband takes his wife to play her first game of golf.

Of course, the wife promptly hacked her first shot right through the window
of the biggest house adjacent to the course. The husband cringed, "I warned you to be careful! Now we'll have to apologize and see how much your lousy drive is going to cost us. “So the couple walked up to the house and knocked on the door.
A warm voice said, "Come on in." When they opened the door they saw the
damage that was done: glass was all over the place, and a broken antique
bottle was lying on its side near the broken window.
A man reclining on the couch asked, "Are you the people that broke my
"Uh...yeah, sir. We're sure sorry about that," the husband replied.
"Oh, no apology is necessary. Actually I want to thank you. You see, I'm a
genie, and I've been trapped in that bottle for a thousand years. Now that
you've released me, I'm allowed to grant three wishes. I'll Give you each
one wish, but if you don't mind, I'll keep the last one for myself."

"Wow, that's great!" the husband said. He pondered a moment and blurted
out, "I'd like a million dollars a year for! the rest of my life.” No problem," said the genie. "You've got it, it's the least I can do. And I'll guarantee you a long, healthy life!"

"And now you, young lady, what do you want?" the genie asked. "I'd like to
own a gorgeous home complete with servants in every country in the world,"
she said.” Consider it done," the genie said. "And your homes will always be safe
from fire, burglary and natural disasters!"

"And now," the couple asked in unison, "what's your wish, genie?"
" Well, since I've been trapped in that bottle and haven't been with a
woman in more than a thousand years, my wish is to sleep with your wife."

The husband looked at his wife and said, "Gee, honey, you know we both now
have a fortune, and all those houses. What do you think?"

She mulled it over for a few moments and said, "You know, you're right.
Considering our good fortune, I guess I wouldn't mind, but what about you,

“You know I love you sweetheart," said the husband.
"I'd do the same for you!" So the genie and the woman went upstairs where
they spent the rest of the afternoon enjoying each other. The genie was
insatiable. After about three hours of non-stop fun, the genie rolled over and looked
directly into her eyes and asked, "How old are you and your husband?"
"Why, we're both 35," she responded breathlessly.

"Really?! Thirty-five years old and both of you
still believe in genies?"s

Keep Smilin ppl



Blogger Sundar Narayanan said...

I have now officially decided not to see the movie..


11:27 PM  
Blogger Sunita said...

I guess from times know to man .... Man has known to wander but its the woman who is objecting to it in a big way today. In a 60s-70s ka movie you would have seen the women forgiving and accepting but doesnt happen now :). I dont know a single girl who would accept a wayward husband, she surely is better off without.
I have posted my review of the movie too.

12:05 AM  

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