Sunday, August 10, 2008

Your “Kid”ding right?

Well, anyone who knows me in person , knows that I am either suffering through a migraine or in the process of getting one.. So with two coworkers off on vacation the last two weeks, I have been coupled with overwork and migraines.. related you say… I think so too! . I am back to the blogging circuit,.hopefully this time , I can post periodically and read my favorites blogs better.

Two articles really caught my eye, during the last week and funnily enough they related to the Indian laws and babies. Not really subjects that you would want to connect in any circumstance.

The first was the case of
Mehta abortion case. The basic question is does a woman have rights to terminate a fetus which is 25 weeks and has a congenital heart defect (CHD).The middle class parents would need to put the child on a pacemaker from birth and bear the costs of the hospitals throughout its life, the Indian courts determined that as the child might have a fair chance of living a normal life, the case was dismissed. Between the public hoopla on the rights of woman and the fetus and some religious associations willing to adopt the child once born, the human emotion was disregarded.
Did anyone even consider what Nikita Mehta was going through? The first child is something born out of the hopes and dreams. (Being a second born, I know I’m loved too :) ! ) . The news about the child having CHD and then the decision to terminate the pregnancy must be a painful and heart wrenching decision. Even with all the support pouring in, this mother might have to see their child grow up on painkillers, medicines and therapy. The Mehta’s could have taken the illegal route and got a “family physician” to terminate the pregnancy, but through a legal route, they have suffered more pain and accusations for what they considered was the right thing to do. I am also tired of the media, trying to pull as much coverage out of this on the woman’s rights issues. Whatever each of our thoughts are, on legal abortion , the final decision and its repercussions rests with the parents. This would be just a passing article and a discussion point over tea for the rest of us, but those parents, it involves a step which would now continue to haunt them the rest of their lives. So the next time media and the law decides purely on a statistical basis , what is right or wrong morally or legally, the emotional content needs to be first examined. The mother has made a decision regarding her child, shouldn’t that count before the “Powers” of legality and morality step in

As for the second news article, I found it surprising and very depressing. Along with the growing Call centers in India, we have also become the hub for surrogate mothers
. A Japanese baby born to a surrogate Indian mother and a Japanese couple , is now India’s first surrogate orphan, after the Japanese couple split before she was born. Now Maji, cannot be adopted by her father Ikufumi Yamada , a well known surgeon, because Indian laws prohibit infant girls being adopted by single man. I understand these laws are to protect young children from perverts , but considering that her grandmother and father are trying to move every stone to get to this child ,it would be a prudent decision to hand her over to the people who love her than into a orphanage with thousand other children waiting to be adopted. Its sad, that when Indian government is trying to reach out to the world, asking them to adopt children from our country, that bureaucracy seems to be our stumbling block. A child with a chance at a happy and normal childhood, is being kept in a hospital in Rajasthan to follow the law, other children on the streets of major metros who need protections from the scum of the city are allowed to roam and beg free in the streets.
Considering law is built around common sense and betterment of the society, isn’t it time for a change?. When do our lawmakers actually sit up and say this system has to be revamped . Atleast let them start with the mothers and children, who are the most vulnerable to their laws and its fallacies.

For the smile

It was the first day of school and a new student named Chandrasekhar Subrahmanyam entered the fourth grade. The teacher said, “Let’s begin by reviewing some American History.
Who said “Give me Liberty, or give me Death”? She saw a sea of blank faces, except for Chandrashekhar, who had his hand up: “Patrick Henry, 1775″ he said.“Very good!”

Who said “Government of the People, by the People, for the People, shall not perish from the Earth?” Again, no response except from Chandrashekhar. “Abraham Lincoln, 1863″ said Chandrashekhar.

The teacher snapped at the class, “Class, you should be ashamed. Chandrashekhar, who is new to our country, knows more about its history than you do.”

She heard a loud whisper: “F**k the Indians, Who said that?” she demanded. Chandrasekhar put his hand up.. “General Custer, 1862.”

At that point, a student in the back said, “I’m gonna puke.”The teacher glares around and asks “All right! Now, who said that?”Again, Chandrasekhar says, “George Bush to the Japanese Prime Minister, 1991.”

Now furious, another student yells, “Oh yeah? S*ck this!”Chandrasekhar jumps out of his chair waving his hand and shouts to the teacher, ” Bill Clinton, to Monica Lewinsky, 1997!”

Now with almost mob hysteria someone said “You little shit. If you say anything else, I’ll kill you.”Chandrasekhar frantically yells at the top of his voice, “Gary Condit to Chandra Levy, 2001.”

The teacher fainted. And as the class gathered around the teacher on the floor, someone said, “Oh shit, we’re f**ked!”And Chandrasekhar said quietly, “George Bush, Iraq, 2005

Keep smiling


Blogger SMM said...

Hey Anu...good to cya back. Hope your better now.

Anyway what you have said in both cases is very true. Its a tough task to bring up a child in today's world, but brining up a child who is going to be born with various congenital problems and a low chance of survival is even tougher. I completely respect the Mehtas stand on going to Court to get permission to abort the child.Its sad that the Court didn't agree with them. Unfortunately our Courts are sometimes forced to take very idealistic stands in order to enforce the law.had the court given permission to abort the child, it would have immediately received a slew of appeals from expecting parents giving various reasons to abort their female child.

Ont he other hand I can only;y claim to understand the plight of the Mehtas, in having to bring up a child who will be born less than perfect. May God give them the strength.

And as for the Japanese baby, again its the red tape and the bureaucracy.

5:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Pavithra,
Good articles, esp. the one on the Right to abortion. I completely agree with what you have said. The parents must have the right to decide on behalf of their unborn child. Imagine bringing a handicapped child (not literally) into this jungly world, and letting him/her suffer and fight for himself/herself all life long. And once the parents are gone, who would support the child ? The judge or the court ?!
Thanks for posting !

9:58 AM  
Blogger ani said...

hope ur feeling much better now dear..

it is kind of sad that the media actually hypes up things so much... anything and everything they need to make it sensational.. they wont wait for a min and think how it would be in their situation.. its the first child.. and they have to see the child suffer for rest of its life.. its not something every parent would want to do.. how much ever the law says that we should give the chance of a child to survive.. but then what kind of survival would this be..

and the adoption.. its such a sad thing.. and our rules do need to be changed.. i am sure there are so many single parents.. what if it had happened after the adoption.. would they have asked for the child back.. am sure they wouldnt have even kept tabs in the first place..

all the rules and regulations is more or less to ppl's convinence..

12:55 PM  
Blogger uma kumar said...

i read a lot of these stories and felt sad too a lot esp about Mehtas..
so i read ur joke which was much in contrast...
good one

4:22 AM  
Blogger Rajesh said...

Ur write-up on the Mehtas abortion was timely...though I've read a lot abt this on magazines, i felt urs equally good and somrthing to think abt...

and the joke at the end was really good...i was laughing after every QUOTE...hee..hee :)

Nice one

P.S: My blog updated..Do read it

8:03 AM  
Blogger Fantasies of a Lifetime said...

hello, nice to have u back , hope you feel better now.......I completely agree with you...It is very sad that the law does not act on human grounds but blindly follows a book :( . . & When someone respects the court, the court in turn should respect them. . .Instances like these would only make more people to break the law . . .The bureaucracy in our country is sometimes sickening!!

10:31 AM  
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10:33 AM  
Blogger Solitaire said...

A lot of ethical dilemmas. No way is better than the other. Everyone will have their own say about things.

3:42 PM  
Blogger MAN IN PAINTING said...

Very Nice..
It is a very perplexing question.I have a friend who, even after knowing that the baby was going to have down syndrome didn't aborted it..but the hardships she had to face both emotional and economical was enormous..Law is always dealing with frozen cannot deal with the dynamics of ethical issues..
It was a nice combination.The sugar candy you offered after that bitter medicines tasted even better..
Do this regularly anu...
You are really good.
me have a 'justsketch'.read and jot your impression..

9:44 PM  
Blogger uma kumar said...

niketha suffers miscarriage
some natural justice
May Be God heard her case!

1:27 AM  
Blogger uma kumar said...

and ofcourse the baby's too

1:29 AM  
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9:42 AM  
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10:14 AM  
Blogger Anu said...

@all: Its nice to know that so many views somehow comeback to support the mother.. wish the laws that rule us also do

5:18 PM  
Blogger Keshi said...

I never knew u hv to go to the Courts to abort a child? wow!

I believe that a woman has every right to take a decision on HER BODY and a baby that is growing inside of her.

How can an external body (such as the Courts) decide wuts good for her and her baby's future?


9:08 PM  
Blogger dintoons said...

life is always precious, and one needs to protect it and care for it, or at the very least, FEEL LOVE n COMPASSION in our hearts... knowing that it's our very own Self out there in another form...

we all are so interconnected that whatever we do to the other, whether "good" or "bad" comes back to us, one way or another...

i loved the classroom story hahaha!! i should do a toon of it ;o), take care

11:55 PM  
Blogger MISS ILLUSION said...

rofl! oh my i so luvd de last part!
i even forgot hw u bega..okay! get it mehta case, it really is sad , dis women hd 2 go thru a lot f stress & 2day i jus read dat she hd an abortion. god bless!!
btwn i hope u r better nw. take care..

4:03 AM  
Blogger Meghna said...

@ ANu- Sorry to not visit often....its coz the ent conn. is out of bounds these days....and also....eeekkkksss....exams arnd the corner :)

I agree with ur opinion on the case....but my fury all stands on the media for blowing it sooo much...

For the smile....I'm laughing hard ROFL :D

HAPPPY INDIPENDENCE DAY di, (If I amy call you didi)

Jai Hind! :)

5:36 AM  
Blogger Anu said...

Dintoons and Ms.Illusion :Welcome

Meghna: Of course you can call me didi :) and im sure you did well in your exams

9:17 PM  
Blogger The Seeker said...
Please do read this.

Something I have been reading a lot these days, and preferred to stay from writing or commneting on any of these. Well Sis I do have some doubts, First thing... I do have a doubt on what kind of society we're living now.

The law didnt allow the doctors, The doctors couldnt, but the media did what the law didnt wnat and the doctor couldnt.
Atlast she had a miscarriage..

The media did it!!! Thanks!!!

What rights does a woman has over her child? sounds good! talking on ethical and humanitarian grounds.. It is a legal crime, a sin and a brutal act to kill a 26 week old foetus, but its not considered even a bit wrong to torment, abuse, ignore, make fun of child who are slightly different, what the Diffrently abled children, mentally differently developed children face in our country!!! is far worse taht those aborted unborn kids..

At times, It pains to see, listen,hear or read about them,, but only at times, the true pain of bringing scuh a child to this world truely and rightfully belongs only to the mother who is shattered in her own world.. Its a pain only a mother can understand...

And Media!! please stop making hue and cry over this.. Its between a mother and a mother( The god) as Shoba de, writes," God must be a mother"

Please read Erma Bombeck, if you ever come across. WHy god made mothers? and what it means to be a mother of a abused kid??

I'll send you soon..

8:27 AM  
Blogger Rajesh said...

Hi Anu...I've updated my blog...I wud like to get ur comments on my recent take time off :)

8:12 PM  
Blogger MAN IN PAINTING said...

i have a new cartoon post
do come..

7:07 AM  

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