Thursday, June 11, 2009

I am woman, hear me Roar

I think I had it!!! I am so disappointed with some people that I would love to scream!! Four months back I had a beautiful bouncing baby. I didn’t care what sex the baby was, just that she was healthy and had every one of her little toes and fingers in the right places. But as I progress more into the world, I just hear more about how quickly I should try for a second one. Why? “well for the boy of course!!”.

I thought gone was the time when getting a girl or boy mattered. Woman nowdays are strong individuals, not dependant on their families and living life to the fullest. I can almost expect the "must have a boy" sentiment from the older set, but it’s the younger lot which scare me. I have friends (Gosh I dread calling them that now) who say “Cho chweet” when they see lil V in the same sentence as “You wish she was a boy , don’t you”. To all of them I say this “IT DOES’NT MATTER”. When the baby looks at you with the complete trust, it’s your heart and soul which are deposited in its care. As a mother do I care if they wear pants or a frock- NOPE but do I care that they remain safe and healthy through life – a big resounding YES. People always asked me when I was pregnant would you like a boy or girl. There is no harm in wanting a son or daughter based on opinion, but after you deliver the child, its pathetic to lament!!. The child whose born is not purely defined by its gender, its defined by the love it receives. That love cannot be tampered by whether its going to like playing with barbies or with rangers.

Especially in days when we have ladies like Sonia Sotomayor being elected to US supreme court , its sad that Generation Y apes its parents for a child preference. I love dressing up my daughter in frills and lace, and if I had a boy unfortunately for him, I would have done the same :D!. One of my older aunts lamented when she heard I had a girl.. “You have to give her away in 25 years when she gets married”… well if I had a boy I would have given him away at 15, when he saw his first playboy :))! Seriously how many men do you know who live with their parents forever. I knowall my girl pals who support their parents emotionally or financially.. cant say the same of the guys.. Nope, Im not saying the guys are bad, just that their priorities change mid life with family. But girls seem to cling on to the old and new and form the thread. As a grown woman, somehow I feel that though I accepted the additional responsibilities , but never leave the initial ones behind. Its funnily the way of the world, woman have always been the binding force in any family. So all those Indian and Chinese couples who genetically try to get a male heir are missing something precious, and by their act alone they don’t deserve a little girl

Take a girl child away at a time, and then the world would be a cold place with each man frozen in his own island.

I just want the younger generation to wake up . It’s hard breaking the glass ceiling with 60 year olds standing in your way, it worse when you have 30 year olds during their job. The reason I write this post is that I never want “V” to feel ashamed for a tiny nano second that she is a girl. I want her to stand proud in her feminity and grace. She has so much color and joy to spread around and that shouldn’t be tampered with the darkness of archaic views of gender preference.

So this is what I need to say to all those mothers who think baby girls are secondary

“I feel sorry for you as you don’t know what a miracle a girl baby is
I feel sorry for you as you miss her spontaneous smile when your wondering if she should have been a boy
I feel sorry for you as you will never sit with her and dream about dancing ponies and flying rainbows
I feel sorry for you as you will not understand the joy of girl talk with the one who sees the world through new eyes
I feel sorry for you as you won’t see your best friend growing in front of your eyes
I feel sorry for you as you can’t seem to let go of your inhibitions so you can soar to new heights with her
I feel sorry for you as all said and done, your the one who let herself down”

Well.. after that rant.. a little smile may be in order
(Guys.. this is just for fun ,Promise :) )


We got off the Titanic first.
We can scare male bosses with mysterious gynecological disorder excuses.
When we buy a vibrator it is glamorous. When men buy a blow up doll it's pathetic.
Men's clothes make women look elfin and gorgeous. Men look like complete idiots in women's clothes.
We can be groupies. Male groupies are stalkers.
We've never lusted after a cartoon character or the central figure in a computer game.
Taxi's stop for us.
Men die earlier, so we get to cash in on the life insurance.
We don't look like a frog in a blender when dancing.
We know the Truth about whether or not size matters.
It's possible to live our whole lives without ever taking a group shower.
We don't have to fart to amuse ourselves.
We never have to wonder if his orgasm was real.
If we forget to shave, no one has to know.
We can congratulate our teammate without ever grabbing her ass.
If we have a zit, we know how to conceal it.
We never have to reach down every so often to make sure our privates are still there.
We have the ability to dress ourselves.
Our friends won't think we're weird if we ask whether there's spinach in our teeth.
We know that there are times when chocolate really can solve all of your problems.
Gay waiters don't make us uncomfortable.
We'll never regret piercing our ears.
We can fully assess a person just by looking at their shoes.
We can talk to people of the opposite sex without having to picture them naked.

Keep Smiling ppl


Blogger SMM said...

I totally agree. We haven't really thought about starting a family yet, but my husband only wants a girl. he and his father keep saying they want girls only while for me & our mothers , we'r okay with either as long as the baby is healthy.

One of my husband's cousins has 3 kids - 2 girls & a boy. As he says, he go it right the 3rd time arund. I see their 2 lovely girls & the little pampered brat and think they got it wrong the 3 rd time around, they had it so right the 1st 2 times.

You go girl. Your little daughter is so lucky that she has you for her mom. It is so sad that even today people give preference to a boy child.

9:46 PM  
Blogger Mumbai Diva said...

poor people. they don't know that whatever happens a daughter will always be there for you...because she wants to. A son? may or may not. also he may just be there because duty expects him to be there for you.

I have seen this in my family. an uncle who has three daughters is so well looked after by them even tho the mother has passed away; the daughters never let him feel lonely or dependent.

we are two sisters. i doubt if my parents have ever felt the need for a son.

so there! :)

5:33 AM  
Blogger Anu said...

SM :Like I said,you can have an opinion or preference but to treat any child as secondary lifeform is sickening.. and yep Baby is healthy is the key

@MD :Welcome... and yes your absolutely right,, i see a lot of woman who support their parents now.. Me and my sis included :)!

12:21 PM  
Blogger CM-Chap said...

100% Agreed. I know how it feels... Gen X is much more confused than our parents, we still live in the old dirty things with tht tag of "We have moved on".

I have gone thru ths for my Sister... All the so called relatives will say "Only if she was a boy..." that to infront of her. When my parents are happy, as a brother I was happy.. what the hell these guys have to do with it. I nvr understood. Well today she is the "Princess" of our family.

All we can do is ignore them and be ourselves

7:45 PM  
Blogger Keshi said...

**...I should try for a second one. Why? “well for the boy of course!!”.

Anu who still says such things in this era? really!

It takes both a WOMAN and a MAN to CREATE another HUMANBEING. I hope those ppl who r ashamed of being female or r looking down upon females realise that they themselves grew inside a WOMAN's womb.

This is why I say Ignorance isnt always Bliss :)


9:29 PM  
Blogger uma kumar said...

well,it sadly true that 'one boy" to carry the family name still haunts indian mind set.
all my friends who had girl baby as their first born are going in for a second baby simply hoping for a boy this time.there is one friend who had gone thru 3 abortions and yet trying for boy as if they r sure it is a boy!i was advising her why r u torturing urself like girl is enough...says my hubby says that bla bla
right now she is preg again...
evolution of human sentiments is never uniform nor faster

1:20 AM  
Blogger Rebus said...

Boy or girl, each have their own quirks and perks; enjoi each for each.

2:33 AM  
Blogger Fantasies of a Lifetime said...

I can only feel sorry for people who cannot appreciate their own child , girl or boy . .

And girls are definitely more awesome :D . .We have living proof (and no , I am not refering to all those sucessful and awe inspiring woman, who fought and won against all odds) its ME ME ME !!

11:48 PM  
Blogger Ananya said...

you r so lucky to have a baby girl...I really wanted a girl....but god blessed me with two boys...not that they r not cute and all...but i always dreamed of a baby girl...i had saved up all my clips and stuff i used as a child for my lil princess...but that is not deterring me in any way...i'm still young and i'm gonna go for a third try in a few years time...fingers crossed for a lil bundle of pink joy:)
it always takes a daughter to understand a woman...

6:22 AM  

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