Monday, October 10, 2005

Love Actually

I knows its been ages since I blogged …but I have my reasons.. quitting a job, moving back to Chennai and learning the basics of housekeeping are a daunting task for anybody.. especially someone .. who always assumed they could hire a housekeeper for the tasks :)) .Also the constant threat of my mother looming large threatening doom, even if I look towards my computer kept me away. So why did I venture to incur my mothers wrath and blog, with a sprained hand (btw I don’t advice lifting the bed with one hand while sweeping :) ) .
Today when I was at the gym (believe me there’s an amazing post there too :) ), my instructor who’s this jovial and the most irritatingly enthusiastic guy I know.. kept staring at the floor as if it was Pandora’s box throughout my 2 hrs sweat session. Asked him abt it ,(the agony aunt in me at work again!) and man did he tell me a story straight out a Tamil blockbuster.
Last year he fell in love with a pretty damsel… well the problem starts there..she is a muslim to his staunch Hindu…. and to make it even sweeter , she was widowed at 21.True Knight married her last December… only to incur the wrath of his family.. mom threatens suicide, dad thrashes him with footwear and this 30 year old body builder is under near house arrest in Chennai. All his certificates and passports retained in Trichy, along with his wife. Mere mention of his wife brings tears, abuse and a lot of threats towards the poor bride.The family sends him off to Chennai and ensures man is stuck at a relatives house. So the unlucky couple separated by family and distance, fast together in the month of Ramzan for Allah and Amman .Before my eyes I saw a man reduce from a healthy 95 kgs to 78 kgs. Married the first time at the age of 15 the poor bride,has not studied too much, so all she has to keep her going are his earnings which he smuggles into her city thru friends. As I kept shaking my head, more from disbelief, that people could be cruel and primitive. (they are searching for a bride for him !!!) and also at the intense love this guy had for his wife. This guy is the most enthusiastic, go getter I’ve seen in a long time. His weight loss was a joke between us, as I was killing myself to loose 1 kg over 2 months , and he just lost 10 in a month!!! Now I know why and suddenly my weightloss seems immaterial before the reason he told me - To starve as his wife was fasting… was unbelievable.. and for a guy who is required to take up dumbbells for a living - crazy!!!
Believe me, I have seen men who love their wives/girlfriends .. but this kind of intensity is something we get to see very few times. And the best part is, there is no publicity of this love, its not denoted by large cards, bunches of flowers and the most expensive gifts that can be given and in many cases bragged about to common friends!!! In the age of Archie’s cards and a gift to cover every occasion and in most cases forgetting that occasion- its nice just to see a couple who live for each other in the true sense of the word without the flounces of romance that has been generated.
I really didn’t meant to demean the other relationships around me, but this couple to are literally& realistically fighting together to keep their marriage was like a breath of fresh air.I thanked God, that K and I had it easy…:)… and thank god, I cannot starve for more than 3 hrs :))
I would also like to congratulate V&P my classmates from college… they underwent parental pressure, religious condemnation, jail time(both of them)…. To finally tie the knot last month! Way to go guys!!

Well my wedding is another 2 weeks and the weirdest part is I’m getting married on my birthday (I can almost hear the guys go gift… and the gals.. what!! Only one gift :)) )..Well I needed to post on this , couldn’t wait to get to my comp!.. nyway those who are reading pray for the poor souls.. they really need it!!

Anyway as usual to make u smile

1)Q: What did the gangster's son tell his dad when he failed his examination?A: Dad they questioned me for 3 hours but I never told them anything.
2)The president of a large corporation opened his directors meeting by announcing, "All those who are opposed to the plan I am about to propose will reply by saying, 'I resign
3)Q: What's the difference between people who pray in church and those who pray in casinos?A: The ones in the casinos are dead serious...
4)When I was young I used to pray for a bike, then I realized that God doesn't work that way, so I stole a bike and prayed for forgiveness. :)
5)Several women appeared in court, each accusing the other of creating nuisance in the flat where they lived. The judge called for orderly testimony. "I'll hear the oldest first," he decreed.Needless to say the case was closed for lack of evidence as no complainants could be seen in the vicinity of the court anymore.
6)A little boy went up to his father and asked, "Dad, where did all of my intelligence come from?" His father replied, "Well, son, you must have gotten it from your mother, because I still have mine."
7)The First Law of Philosophy: For every philosopher, there exists an equal and opposite philosopher.The Second Law of Philosophy: They're both wrong

8)Sunny's teacher sent a note home to his Mother saying,"Sunny seems to be a very bright boy, but spends too much of his time thinking about girls."The Mother wrote back the next day, "If you find a solution, please advise. I have the same problem with his Father."

Keep Smiling ppl